Irena's story. Multiple sclerosis.
The real relationship is when you are sure that the hand of the person you hold, is the one you won't never let. And you don't need to prove anything to anybody. You just want to be with that person.
Disease for her was an excuse. "Don't touch me, I'm so seriousely sick".
During all her marriage she felt hatered to her husband. She expressed words of love but inside she felt only anger and resentment. She got used to that pain she constantly felt inside.
-"If you were healthy, would it be easier to manipulate your husband or it is easier if are sick?"
-"If I were healthy, I'd divorce my husband" she says. She was unhappy and was lying to herself around the clock.
-"Why are you feeling angry with him"?
-"I'd kick his butt, I'd never talk to him again, I'm angry, because I want to do something else, something new, which I've never done in my life, different to what I did yesterday."
-"Anger it is an energy, which you use to do that things you are only talking about but you never do them. You need anger to have the energy to act. You feel anger but you don't do anything. You are afraid.
What are you afraid of?"
You think you express you emotions "I'm so angry, I'm so furious" but at the same time you take blows and still say "I'm so angry". If you don't do anything about your life, all you hold inside is pointed towards your body. You are not stupid but you are afraid of something, of your action. Something doesn't let you act. What are you afraid of? That he will leave you? Let it go. You are afraid to lose your husband but actually you don't have him now anyway."
What are you afraid of?"
You think you express you emotions "I'm so angry, I'm so furious" but at the same time you take blows and still say "I'm so angry". If you don't do anything about your life, all you hold inside is pointed towards your body. You are not stupid but you are afraid of something, of your action. Something doesn't let you act. What are you afraid of? That he will leave you? Let it go. You are afraid to lose your husband but actually you don't have him now anyway."
What do you need anger for?
Anger is energy. You feel this energy every day. You need energy everyday to act, to do things but you don't do anything.
What else do you need energy for?
To change your life.
First steps are to start expressing your feelings.
You can say "Go to hell" or just appologize by saying "forgive me, it hurts me, I'm furious at you, I'm angry with you, I don't like that what's going on here."
But in your case in the meantime you got used to feel resentment, pain, fear, anger, you got used to all of that. You don't feel love anymore.
What to do about it now?
The way to get better is to take care of yourself, go to the hairdresser's, do your nails, go to the gym. Start looking at yourself as 100% of a human being. Be as active as you can. Attitude "look at me, how poor I am" that doesn't work.
Irina, when we first met her was in a wheelchair. After 6 month of taking care of herself and applying other recommendations she wasn't using it anymore.
Contact me for more information or a session
Pic by Reidy68 Pixabay
Anger is energy. You feel this energy every day. You need energy everyday to act, to do things but you don't do anything.
What else do you need energy for?
To change your life.
First steps are to start expressing your feelings.
You can say "Go to hell" or just appologize by saying "forgive me, it hurts me, I'm furious at you, I'm angry with you, I don't like that what's going on here."
But in your case in the meantime you got used to feel resentment, pain, fear, anger, you got used to all of that. You don't feel love anymore.
What to do about it now?
The way to get better is to take care of yourself, go to the hairdresser's, do your nails, go to the gym. Start looking at yourself as 100% of a human being. Be as active as you can. Attitude "look at me, how poor I am" that doesn't work.
Irina, when we first met her was in a wheelchair. After 6 month of taking care of herself and applying other recommendations she wasn't using it anymore.
Contact me for more information or a session
Pic by Reidy68 Pixabay